For unto us a Child is born, Unto us a Son is given; And the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

Isaiah 9:6

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Recently I have fallen in love with a divorced guy. He has two daughters aged 9 and 13. Would it be wrong to marry him? Please help me with some advice.


This is a difficult issue and one that cannot be adequately handled in a few words. Please talk to your pastor or a Christian counsellor as there are many issues to consider. For example: Why was he divorced? When did he become a Christian? Is he living in forgiveness? (i.e. personally forgiven by the Lord as well as exercising a forgiving attitude towards others.) There is no black-and-white answer to your question and it is vital that you seek the Will of God for your life before taking this step.

A starting point in your search for the Will of God is to ask the vital question: Is this man a genuine believer, born again of the Spirit of God? If he is not, then your search is ended and you need no further counsel, for the Word does not allow a Christian to be "unequally yoked" with an unbeliever (2 Cor 6:14) and commands us to marry "only in the Lord." 1 Cor 7:39

Meditate on Psalm 32:8 and allow the Lord to "instruct you and teach you in the way you should go".


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